Ep #109: Therapy Thursday - Bryan Silver - Marriage - Intentional Connections

Jon & Bryan talk about how we can be intentional to improve our marriage relationships. If we’re going to connect on a regular basis, it is not going to be by accident. We must build structure into our intentional reaches in our relationships. We must get good at guarding our time, and the only way to do that is with structure.

So, how do we connect well on each other’s terms? What is their love language (words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, physical touch)? You need to become the greatest student of your spouse and communicate our love in the way that they receive love.

Also, learn to use a care list for each of you to write down the things that make you feel cared for and share it with one another. Some examples would be:

I would feel cared for IF…

• you kissed me when you walked in the door.

• you turned off the light when you leave a room.

• you would plan something specific for a date.

• you would stand in my corner when we are with your parents.

• you would put your phone down when we are talking.

Be intentional to communicate well with one another!

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret To Love That Lasts - by Gary Chapman - https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-that-Lasts/dp/080241270X

Pillow Talk for Couples: Drawing Closer Before the Lights Go Out - by Les Parrott https://www.amazon.com/Pillow-Talk-Couples-Drawing-Closer/dp/0849996627?fbclid=IwAR1B3FnDeu7FHAapYLkUjl2fA19zNWycPb_I4usjZFwHmvI1zadIJIxlpEE